titles are a bitch, but lets say "wife", "step-mom", & "USNavy milso"

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relationship goals

marriage? partners? soul-mates? whatever you are involved with it takes work. no matter how “perfect” you think your relationship is? it has to be worked at. everyday.
that’s something almost everyone knows, right? it takes two to tango. but a common misconception that I had to come to terms with is, that doesn’t mean it takes two to tango every single moment of every single day.
something I learned being involved in the rocky, beautiful, sometimes tragic, but most heartfelt endearing type of is love I don’t have to work every single day. that’s why I have a partner(: he picks up where I lack. there are some weeks that he takes care of everything for me, because I just don’t feel I have the strength to handle life anymore. and then there’s the weeks when the roles are reversed! it’s a nice balance, really.

what I’m saying is, my future sailor and I took a long long time finding that balance. it’s what works for OUR relationship. I was too worried comparing my lacks to other woman’s gains to realize 50/50? doesn’t mean he scratches my back, I scratch his. it means that ON AN AVERAGE I take care of him as much as he takes care of me.
having too much dependence is a really dangerous thing to play with…but that’s a post for another day(:

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a little advice from my life to yours.

Being a 20 y/o woman and stepping off the beating path of what you always thought your life would turn out like is hard. It’s scary. It’s stressful. This is the time in your life when you make the bed for the rest of it. You decide your career, you start dating potential life-partners- it’s emotional overload. And some of you, like I did, will realize your whole life plan is all wrong for you and you make a change

I’m here to let you know thats OKAY! Everyone needs to find their own happiness, we all need to face life in a way that will make it work for us. You’re going to have ups & downs, you’re going to make mistakes but sometimes its worth taking a risk that could put you off the beating path (I gave up a full scholarship to a very nice university in order to find my own happiness within my soon-to-be military family AND I LOVE MY LIFE).

You just might find you like the person you become.

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